11.17.2011

In My Next 30 Years

Well - it's delayed, but here is part two... typed up one handed with my sleeping baby in my other arm...

My next thirty years will be better than the last. I will:


(in no particular order)
become a black belt
become good friends with Emlee
be attentive and appreciative to Trent
be an awesome, active mother to Trinity
give Trent the baby boy he wants
finish my Bachelor's degree
pay off my student loans
not incur so much new debt
maintain a good credit score
find the perfect career
achieve and maintain a healthy weight
be a better friend and make new friends
learn to truly love unconditionally
be more involved with my family
watch less television
quit smoking
get in some quality travel time
truly live
truly laugh
truly love...

there will be fewer tears in this 30 years and better communication with others... i plan to share my thoughts and hopefully understand them...

that's the plan, now to make it happen!

9.30.2011

My First Thirty Years

I have hit that ever dreaded age - 30, been there for almost a month now... really feel no older than I did at 29 or even 25, or heck, not really sure what's so different now than at 18... and maybe that's the problem.

My metabolism has progressively died off on me - I guess that's one difference.

I'm in a happy marriage now - that's definitly a new difference.

And I'm pregnant and feeling more aches and pains than I recall with my first child 12 years ago - so I guess that's sayinig something for age.

But really, life doesn't seem much different to me, which has caused a lot of reflection, both good and bad about my life and my future. So as a part of a two part series (next up - my next 30 years), I want to take a moment to reflect on my life up until now.

Accomplishments in my first 30 years:
EMLEE! # 1.
Meeting, hooking & 'trapping' Trent #2
Maintaining a job for 12 straight years
Completing my GED
Completing my Associates Degree
Almost completing my Bachelor's Degree (still in progress, no worries - it will get done)
Learning and attempting several different career opportunities
Two home purchases
Pretty decent credit
Independance
Pregnant with baby # 2 (still in progress, no worries - she'll be a 'next 30 years accomplishment')
Surviving and learning to live well despite severe depression
Making friends
Keeping friends
Being Kind
Gaining Confidence
Earning my 1st degree brown belt in Karate
Maintaining a decent figure
Keeping a good relationship with my mother
Providing for my family
Always having X-mas gifts under the tree for those that I love

Regrets for my 1st 30 years:
Letting loved ones leave me - without them knowing I loved them! #1
Marrying too young.
Dropping out of highschool (despite pursuing my GED right after)
Telling one of my bosses he was the worst boss I'd ever had
Telling my husband (when engaged) that I didn't want to love him anymore. (I really did - couldn't help it)
Not eloping to Vegas!
Cashing in my 401k savings - twice... (it was needed)
Not starting a new 401k plan when returning to Affina (HGS)
Letting my teeth get so bad
Not finishing my degree early in life
Not having a means of paying for my degree with anything other than loans I'm not sure how I'll repay
Not working out more
Not spending more time with my daughter
Sleeping around - way too much
Feeling dependant upon having a man in my life
Releasing my pains through late night crys and sobbing in a bubble bath - surely there were more constructive ways

And I'm sure there are more... both accomplishments and regrets... but who wants to focus that hard on the past, when I have a perfectly good next 30 years ahead of me... and need to think about what happens next.

9.01.2011

Updates

Tooth infection cleared up. Yay!

Trinity has grown... 3lb, 3oz as of this morning... 31 weeks along. 53rd percentile. Yay!

Em's successfully caring for her braces... thank Heavens!

Em has successfully begun her 8th grade year... can't believe it!

We have officially moved into our new home... About Time!

Still behind at work... ugh...

Still living out of boxes until we get our basement fixed up... ugh...

Still haven't won the lottery... BOO...

Still haven't found my dream job... BOO...

Still dreaming about it though... GO ME!

And that's my life, in a small nutshell...

More to come when time allows...


8.17.2011

Pain in the Jaw

Eek.

So I got three cavities filled four weeks ago... following proper procedure to take care of any needed dental work during my second trimester of pregnancy.

Within hours of my face regaining feeling, one of teeth was achey. Evey website I visited told me that having a large cavity drilled and capped can leave the root sensitive and cause a little pain for anywhere for a few days to a few weeks after the filling, which will eventually cease. For that reason, I waited... and waited. The pain subsided slightly, but then came back with a vengeance at about 130am this past Monday morning. I don't think I've really slept since. My mouth throbs constantly... I can barely tell from which tooth the pain is originating anymore. It hurts to chew, it hurts to smoke, it hurts to talk and it hurts just to breath. This is a pain so intense I can't concentrate on anything other than its existence and would do anything to rid myself of it.

So I started looking Monday afternoon for 'at home remedies' to ease the pain until I can get it looked at... salt, tea bags, lemon rinds, ice packs, drinking water... everyone had an answer... and when everyone has a different solution to a problem, you can almost be guaranteed that none of them will work. That's what I came into. I have coated my sore tooth in salt, rinsed with salt water, slept with an ice pack under my cheek, and followed every other piece of advice and can't seem to get a moment of peace from this pain. The only thing I have found to work is holding Listerine in my mouth in that area for a while. This helps to burn the pain away for a very brief period of time.

Being pregnant, pain killers are for the most part out of the question. I am allowed Tylenol, but apparently the powers of Tylenol are futile against this pain. I'm starting to think there is infection involved as well, since I woke up feverish this morning and sick to my stomach. Luckily that feeling passed by early afternoon. I have given up on Tylenol almost altogether... safe as they say it may be when pregnant, I'm sure I'm not supposed to be popping it like candy. I'm also sure it's not good for me to be in this much pain and not able to sleep for three straight days, so I broke down and made an appointment to go back to the dentist tomorrow morning, bright and early. Wishing I could go now, and maybe get some sleep tonight, but alas... I must wait.

It makes me wonder though... yes, this was apparently a big cavity, and yes, it was sensitive to hot and cold... but no... it NEVER hurt this bad. I rarely ever felt the tooth until after the cavity was drilled out and then filled in, and have been in at least mild pain/discomfort ever since. I chose to get it filled knowing I should avoid dental work in my final trimester and alas, I'm now feeling like I would have been better off to let it wait until the baby was born and deal with it then. At least then, when the filling caused an abscess, I'd be on maternity leave and have more time at my disposal to deal with such things. As it is, we're moving this week and I haven't been near as productive when not at work as I would otherwise have liked. Right now all I want to do is go home and soak my face in ice and try to get a wink of sleep before the throbbing commences.

Wish me luck everyone... Trinity isn't enjoying the pain her mother is in now. By this time tomorrow she and I should be all better, and hopefully not by losing a tooth in the process... eek... I kinda need this one.

8.01.2011

Weekend Excitement - Cubs/Cards

We got to go see our Cub/Cards game at Busch Stadium last night. Thankfully for me, the Cubs won! I don't get to see that very often so it was a wonderful change of pace.

I was awesome this weekend and got my homework all done before I crashed Saturday night, so we were able to leave early and spend the day in St. Louis before the game. It was a nice little get-away from our normal routine and all the craziness of being pregnant, working all the time, going to school and trying to arrange our move in the upcoming weeks.

Despite some extremely slow construction zones (does cutting to one lane from two REALLY mean that everyone must come to a complete stand still and drive stop/start at 5 miles an hour through the zone?), we made it there in about three hours. We did lunch at Lions Choice - an absolute must for Trent every time we happen to be in St. Louis. The menu there is fairly simple - Roast Beef sandwiches and fries for the most part - but he refers to it as 'like Arby's on crack'... and I admit, the roast beef sandwiches are pretty darn good (next time I'll ask for no season salt - that was a bit much), but delicious.

From there we found our way to the St. Louis Zoo. I'd never been, so I thought it would be nice to check it out, and Trent was a good sport about hanging out in the heat/humidity with me and checking it out. We only had a little less than two hours there, but we made due with the time we had and saw as much as possible. I can't say I didn't get any excersize for the day at least... If you didn't want to spend the $12.00 for parking, the option was to walk a heck of a long way to get into the zoo, and then of course, walking the spanse of a huge zoo to try and see everything we (I) wanted to. Luckily, it didn't feel near so hot as we expected and we managed to enjoy every minute of it. It makes me think more and more of the baby in my tummy and how awesome it will be when she gets old enough to enjoy adventures of that nature with us!

My favorites at the zoo are the penguins and the monkeys... they are adorable. I am sure Trinity will love them as much as I do. I wonder if I can get her a pet tamarin monkey... :) I know I'd like one.

From the zoo, we made our way back downtown and sought out are parking for the game. We got there early enough that Trent could enjoy a beer at a nearby tavern for only $5.00 instead of the $8.00/each inside the stadium and then we wandered around the stadium for an hour, admiring all the possible views and finding our own seats with the best possible view (Right behind home plate!!!). We did a dinner of junk food at the game - can't beat that, and watched as the Cubs regained a little respect for the series and won the game! I needed that victory.

After a few more drinks at the tavern across from the stadium, we decided traffic was better and it was time to make our way home (this being 11pm already). Since I was the sober one, I was left with the task of driving us, and unfortunately, our GPS took us in a big circle three times before we fought her directions and found our own way to the bridge she swore we were on when we weren't. She asked me twice to take a right, directly into the river... which I upset her greatly by not following those instructions. As always though, once we got to where we knew our way, the GPS chick got her bearings and led us home safely. I only had to fight myself to stay awake a few times on the drive, and pulled us into our driveway safely at about 2:20 am this morning. I did feel bad for Trent having to be at work bright and early, but I at least got to sleep in a bit. :)

Cost for the day? $207 for the tickets. $44 in gas money. $11 for breakfast/morning road snacks/waters along the way. $18 for lunch at Lions Choice. Zoo - absolutely free except $3 for water. $15 for parking at game. $18 for before and after drinks at bar. $80 for drinks at the game. $24 for food at the game. = $420 (and you expected me to say priceless... ha...)

All in all a good day though.