9.30.2011

My First Thirty Years

I have hit that ever dreaded age - 30, been there for almost a month now... really feel no older than I did at 29 or even 25, or heck, not really sure what's so different now than at 18... and maybe that's the problem.

My metabolism has progressively died off on me - I guess that's one difference.

I'm in a happy marriage now - that's definitly a new difference.

And I'm pregnant and feeling more aches and pains than I recall with my first child 12 years ago - so I guess that's sayinig something for age.

But really, life doesn't seem much different to me, which has caused a lot of reflection, both good and bad about my life and my future. So as a part of a two part series (next up - my next 30 years), I want to take a moment to reflect on my life up until now.

Accomplishments in my first 30 years:
EMLEE! # 1.
Meeting, hooking & 'trapping' Trent #2
Maintaining a job for 12 straight years
Completing my GED
Completing my Associates Degree
Almost completing my Bachelor's Degree (still in progress, no worries - it will get done)
Learning and attempting several different career opportunities
Two home purchases
Pretty decent credit
Independance
Pregnant with baby # 2 (still in progress, no worries - she'll be a 'next 30 years accomplishment')
Surviving and learning to live well despite severe depression
Making friends
Keeping friends
Being Kind
Gaining Confidence
Earning my 1st degree brown belt in Karate
Maintaining a decent figure
Keeping a good relationship with my mother
Providing for my family
Always having X-mas gifts under the tree for those that I love

Regrets for my 1st 30 years:
Letting loved ones leave me - without them knowing I loved them! #1
Marrying too young.
Dropping out of highschool (despite pursuing my GED right after)
Telling one of my bosses he was the worst boss I'd ever had
Telling my husband (when engaged) that I didn't want to love him anymore. (I really did - couldn't help it)
Not eloping to Vegas!
Cashing in my 401k savings - twice... (it was needed)
Not starting a new 401k plan when returning to Affina (HGS)
Letting my teeth get so bad
Not finishing my degree early in life
Not having a means of paying for my degree with anything other than loans I'm not sure how I'll repay
Not working out more
Not spending more time with my daughter
Sleeping around - way too much
Feeling dependant upon having a man in my life
Releasing my pains through late night crys and sobbing in a bubble bath - surely there were more constructive ways

And I'm sure there are more... both accomplishments and regrets... but who wants to focus that hard on the past, when I have a perfectly good next 30 years ahead of me... and need to think about what happens next.

9.01.2011

Updates

Tooth infection cleared up. Yay!

Trinity has grown... 3lb, 3oz as of this morning... 31 weeks along. 53rd percentile. Yay!

Em's successfully caring for her braces... thank Heavens!

Em has successfully begun her 8th grade year... can't believe it!

We have officially moved into our new home... About Time!

Still behind at work... ugh...

Still living out of boxes until we get our basement fixed up... ugh...

Still haven't won the lottery... BOO...

Still haven't found my dream job... BOO...

Still dreaming about it though... GO ME!

And that's my life, in a small nutshell...

More to come when time allows...


8.17.2011

Pain in the Jaw

Eek.

So I got three cavities filled four weeks ago... following proper procedure to take care of any needed dental work during my second trimester of pregnancy.

Within hours of my face regaining feeling, one of teeth was achey. Evey website I visited told me that having a large cavity drilled and capped can leave the root sensitive and cause a little pain for anywhere for a few days to a few weeks after the filling, which will eventually cease. For that reason, I waited... and waited. The pain subsided slightly, but then came back with a vengeance at about 130am this past Monday morning. I don't think I've really slept since. My mouth throbs constantly... I can barely tell from which tooth the pain is originating anymore. It hurts to chew, it hurts to smoke, it hurts to talk and it hurts just to breath. This is a pain so intense I can't concentrate on anything other than its existence and would do anything to rid myself of it.

So I started looking Monday afternoon for 'at home remedies' to ease the pain until I can get it looked at... salt, tea bags, lemon rinds, ice packs, drinking water... everyone had an answer... and when everyone has a different solution to a problem, you can almost be guaranteed that none of them will work. That's what I came into. I have coated my sore tooth in salt, rinsed with salt water, slept with an ice pack under my cheek, and followed every other piece of advice and can't seem to get a moment of peace from this pain. The only thing I have found to work is holding Listerine in my mouth in that area for a while. This helps to burn the pain away for a very brief period of time.

Being pregnant, pain killers are for the most part out of the question. I am allowed Tylenol, but apparently the powers of Tylenol are futile against this pain. I'm starting to think there is infection involved as well, since I woke up feverish this morning and sick to my stomach. Luckily that feeling passed by early afternoon. I have given up on Tylenol almost altogether... safe as they say it may be when pregnant, I'm sure I'm not supposed to be popping it like candy. I'm also sure it's not good for me to be in this much pain and not able to sleep for three straight days, so I broke down and made an appointment to go back to the dentist tomorrow morning, bright and early. Wishing I could go now, and maybe get some sleep tonight, but alas... I must wait.

It makes me wonder though... yes, this was apparently a big cavity, and yes, it was sensitive to hot and cold... but no... it NEVER hurt this bad. I rarely ever felt the tooth until after the cavity was drilled out and then filled in, and have been in at least mild pain/discomfort ever since. I chose to get it filled knowing I should avoid dental work in my final trimester and alas, I'm now feeling like I would have been better off to let it wait until the baby was born and deal with it then. At least then, when the filling caused an abscess, I'd be on maternity leave and have more time at my disposal to deal with such things. As it is, we're moving this week and I haven't been near as productive when not at work as I would otherwise have liked. Right now all I want to do is go home and soak my face in ice and try to get a wink of sleep before the throbbing commences.

Wish me luck everyone... Trinity isn't enjoying the pain her mother is in now. By this time tomorrow she and I should be all better, and hopefully not by losing a tooth in the process... eek... I kinda need this one.

8.01.2011

Weekend Excitement - Cubs/Cards

We got to go see our Cub/Cards game at Busch Stadium last night. Thankfully for me, the Cubs won! I don't get to see that very often so it was a wonderful change of pace.

I was awesome this weekend and got my homework all done before I crashed Saturday night, so we were able to leave early and spend the day in St. Louis before the game. It was a nice little get-away from our normal routine and all the craziness of being pregnant, working all the time, going to school and trying to arrange our move in the upcoming weeks.

Despite some extremely slow construction zones (does cutting to one lane from two REALLY mean that everyone must come to a complete stand still and drive stop/start at 5 miles an hour through the zone?), we made it there in about three hours. We did lunch at Lions Choice - an absolute must for Trent every time we happen to be in St. Louis. The menu there is fairly simple - Roast Beef sandwiches and fries for the most part - but he refers to it as 'like Arby's on crack'... and I admit, the roast beef sandwiches are pretty darn good (next time I'll ask for no season salt - that was a bit much), but delicious.

From there we found our way to the St. Louis Zoo. I'd never been, so I thought it would be nice to check it out, and Trent was a good sport about hanging out in the heat/humidity with me and checking it out. We only had a little less than two hours there, but we made due with the time we had and saw as much as possible. I can't say I didn't get any excersize for the day at least... If you didn't want to spend the $12.00 for parking, the option was to walk a heck of a long way to get into the zoo, and then of course, walking the spanse of a huge zoo to try and see everything we (I) wanted to. Luckily, it didn't feel near so hot as we expected and we managed to enjoy every minute of it. It makes me think more and more of the baby in my tummy and how awesome it will be when she gets old enough to enjoy adventures of that nature with us!

My favorites at the zoo are the penguins and the monkeys... they are adorable. I am sure Trinity will love them as much as I do. I wonder if I can get her a pet tamarin monkey... :) I know I'd like one.

From the zoo, we made our way back downtown and sought out are parking for the game. We got there early enough that Trent could enjoy a beer at a nearby tavern for only $5.00 instead of the $8.00/each inside the stadium and then we wandered around the stadium for an hour, admiring all the possible views and finding our own seats with the best possible view (Right behind home plate!!!). We did a dinner of junk food at the game - can't beat that, and watched as the Cubs regained a little respect for the series and won the game! I needed that victory.

After a few more drinks at the tavern across from the stadium, we decided traffic was better and it was time to make our way home (this being 11pm already). Since I was the sober one, I was left with the task of driving us, and unfortunately, our GPS took us in a big circle three times before we fought her directions and found our own way to the bridge she swore we were on when we weren't. She asked me twice to take a right, directly into the river... which I upset her greatly by not following those instructions. As always though, once we got to where we knew our way, the GPS chick got her bearings and led us home safely. I only had to fight myself to stay awake a few times on the drive, and pulled us into our driveway safely at about 2:20 am this morning. I did feel bad for Trent having to be at work bright and early, but I at least got to sleep in a bit. :)

Cost for the day? $207 for the tickets. $44 in gas money. $11 for breakfast/morning road snacks/waters along the way. $18 for lunch at Lions Choice. Zoo - absolutely free except $3 for water. $15 for parking at game. $18 for before and after drinks at bar. $80 for drinks at the game. $24 for food at the game. = $420 (and you expected me to say priceless... ha...)

All in all a good day though.

7.28.2011

A world of hard work and constant changes

So much has transpired in the last week, and only ten times as much to come in the next few months.

Our new home is ready for us now... quite a bit of work left to do before we can move in, but it's ours to do with as we wish. We spent some time there over last weekend and early this week cleaning and scrubbing away (sweating too... no air conditioning right now)... and are slowly making our way through all the necessary tasks so we can take full ownership.

Cleaning the fridge took me over 3.5 hours, and Trent has spent as much time scrubbing walls down. Em has been diligently (yes, really), working on the floors for me. While her technique could use definite improvement, I'm just pleased she's pitching in to help. We still haven't yet touched the basement, but as long as the upstairs is clean, I'll start carting over boxes and stocking them while I wait for Trent and his crew to get some painting done. My goal right now is to move all of our big stuff (the last stuff to move) on August 20th, and consider the home all ours at that point. Although that's a tight squeeze for Em who returns to school on the 22nd I have no doubt she can cope.

Speaking of Em, she got the pleasure of her first gynecological appointment yesterday morning (luckily no exam required), and we got to have the possible birth control talk. She's eleven, I know! But 12 in less than 2 weeks, and rapidly becoming a woman.

If that weren't torture enough, this morning I got to take her to get her braces put on. Poor kid. I felt bad for her while they were digging around in her mouth, but she needs them, so be it. I cut a check for $650 down payment, and committed myself to $168/mo for the next two years at the same time. I wonder what happens if I default on those payments now that the braces are in... do they stop working on them? Let them stay on forever until they fall off naturally? Or do they come and repossess all the metal in her mouth? It would be interesting to find out, but I think instead I'll just find a way to pay off the added debt. Thankfully - no interest... whew, at least some company isn't completely trying to bleed me dry.

Affina, my career home for the past 12 years is no longer Affina - we are now HGS or Hinduja Global Solutions, and not only changing names but looking to move locations in the near future as well. Quite a lot of excitement at work. At this time, however, none of that excitement has anything to do with a promotion for a diligent, deserving, hard working, loyal, dedicated, intelligent, capably, tenured employee that is in dyer need of additional income and soon to be leaving on maternity leave, so not able to hope for any new opportunities in the next three months. Speaking of bleeding me dry, my place of employment has the ability to do that to me over and over and over again, and yet I still believe that opportunities exist here, and I WILL find them. I can't speak bad of Affina, they've paid my bills for years... unfortunately, my pay has not inflated at the rate of my living expenses, and with a baby on the way, I'm starting to get scared.

That being said, my search for part time work at home (legitimate) jobs, still continues. I've found several in which I'm interested and at which I think I can excel, it's all a matter of selling myself to them now, getting the job, and seeing the compensation. It will happen.

That's all for now folks. I'll try to write again before a week goes by.

7.20.2011

3rd Monday in a row

This week is proving to go by super slow, although not much different than any other of late.

Took Em for her separators this morning, then went to class and managed to get in a reasonable workout, which felt good. Then to work where I've been sitting and staring at my computer, being slammed all day and not feeling like I've done anything productive. Gotta love that feeling.

Tomorrow morning I get to relax a little before class at least. Maybe do some packing, if I'm feeling energetic (have I mentioned yet we're moving in the very near future - ugh - different post for a different day), or just chill in a bubble bath and forget that I have to go to work tomorrow night. That's tempting.

Got Trent a dentist appt tomorrow, at least the initial one. He's a big boy, and can go from there with any follow up appointments. Hopefully he's clean of all cavities and can schedule a cleaning and no extra bills will be accrued... the braces being enough for a while yet... but we'll see. I think he's got a few cavities they might find and want to fill.

I just hope tomorrow and Friday speed by a little faster the past three days. I know if I get an offer for my reporting job I'm waiting on, time will fly by for a while. I think I just need that confidence mood booster that's been missing for a while. Rejection will only make the minute hand slow down even further, I'm sure. Still have my fingers crossed... I hope tomorrow at least ends up being Tuesday!


Short and sweet tonight - just typing to kill my last break of the day.

7.19.2011

Braces Are Coming

What a stressful situations - comparison shopping for braces for my child. Really? Am I so cheap that I seek out the lowest bidder? But alas, that's exactly what I did. The orthodontist I went with is highly rated and will be great, I'm sure, but I still wish I could be that kind of mother to get my child necessary medical procedures without surrendering to the pains of financial burden.

Anyway - I ended up with a great deal... $4500, which could not be beat by our dentist. I pay $650 up front, and sell my soul to them for the next two years until the remainder is paid off at $160/mo. It's not horrible. If not for child support, there would be no possible way I could do it, and my daughter would suffer with bad teeth forever, so Thanks Rob! Tomorrow we go get separators put in, and next week on the 28th we'll get the braces. I feel bad for the kid... I never had to have them myself, but I'm sure it will be a bit of a discomfort and inconvenience for her. She is, however, excited about getting different colored rubber bands. It's going to be her new fashion statement I guess. Can't hold my kid back with school uniforms.

In other news - I went yesterday for my gestational glucose testing. This involves having a finger prick test, then having blood drawn, following that with drinking some orange liquidated sugar substance, then waiting an hour, having blood drawn again, waiting another hour and having blood drawn a final time. In total, I was in the office for a little over two and half hours. I was forewarned that if I were to throw up the orange drink, I'd have to reschedule and return to be tortured again... of course, having heard this, I got more nauseous sitting there waiting than I have been my entire pregnancy thus far. I did manage to hold it down though. I was told I would be contacted IF there are any concerns, and it should be within 2-3 days, so hopefulling if I do not hear anything by the end of the day tomorrow, I'm home free!!! And free to eat all the sugar I want!!! yummy!

Still waiting on my promotion here at work! It's coming though, I know it. I deserve it! Actually, I'm almost positive it's not coming... but I'm used to the rejection by now, and almost understand not wanting to hire a pregnant woman with her leave so imminently dangling in the not too distant future... still, I'll keep my fingers crossed... I do deserve it, and most of all, I desperately NEED it. It's a job I know I can excel at, I just hope they know that too. Wish me luck?